🧠 Why We Follow the Wrong Advice
Ever noticed how we start taking someone seriously the moment they become rich, famous, or have a blue tick?
We don’t just follow advice —
We follow success.
But here’s the truth:
The person with the best advice isn’t always the one with the biggest bank balance or follower count.
🏹 Back in the Day
In ancient times, survival was the goal.
People followed the strongest, the smartest — the ones who could literally save your life.
But then came money.
And then came social media.
And suddenly, we replaced wisdom with wealth and followers.
💸 Let Me Give You an Example
If I say:
Spend 60% of your income.
Invest 15%. Save another 15%.
Keep 5% aside for emergencies.
Use 4% for learning — books, courses, anything.
And donate 1% — because helping others actually makes you happy.
Sounds good, right?
Now here’s the full picture:
I’ve failed with money more times than I can count.
I’m not rich.
I don’t have followers in the thousands.
I still struggle — but this advice came from years of listening, reading, failing, and trying again.
And I believe it’s solid.
But if I say it, it might not hit.
If a famous entrepreneur says,
“Just spend 80%, save 20%,”
people would probably clap and repost it.
🧠 Because We Don’t Just Listen to Advice — We Listen to WHO Says It
We’re wired this way.
We think:
“If they’re rich, they must know.”
“If they’re famous, they must be right.”
“If they have 1M followers, they must be wise.”
But it’s often the opposite.
A person who’s been broke understands money deeply.
A person who’s been unloved understands love more honestly.
A person who’s been unfit values health in a way a gym bro might never understand.
We understand the value of something only when we’ve lost it.
Jisne pyaar nahi paaya, usse pyaar ki value sabse zyada hoti hai.
🎯 Real Advice Comes From the Struggle, Not the Stage
And many successful people themselves don’t fully know what worked.
Was it timing? Luck? Privilege? Randomness?
Truth is: too many things work at once — even for them.
That’s why this blog — abhirah.com — began.
Not to collect quotes from the top 1%,
but to understand how everyday people think about life, money, love, and choices.
📚 A Final Note (Backed by Science)
Robert Cialdini’s Influence shows how we get tricked by appearances — status, confidence, titles.
It’s called the authority bias: we trust the suit, not the sense.
But if you want to grow in real life, start listening beyond the filters and thumbnails.
Because sometimes, the best advice comes from the person still sitting next to you —
quietly figuring life out.